Not the most fun topic for April Fool’s Day. Hey, I’m editing it over a month later due to something else I’ve watched.
Sure this was prompted by some government news and now a reality show. It’s also prompted by experience.
Let’s start with the obvious – have I lied? Yes. I’ve been busy when I wasn’t. Completed a job when I forgot. Said I liked something when I didn’t quite like it. Okay, no biggies, I’d even go out on a limb and say the majority of us have had these same lies.
Have you also done the big one – lie to yourself? Have you lied in order to do something only because you didn’t want to be left out; left alone? Is it lying to yourself when you accept a behaviour only because it’s being done by a friend or family member?
This trait makes for fun television, movies, reality shows, but it hurts in real time.
Back to the reality show that made me edit this post. This was not a game show. There was no prize at the end. The audience saw what was done and said and then watched as the person denied ever saying anything. Actually putting the blame on another. Honestly, I was floored. Did the person believe her lie was the truth?
I’m pretty good at detecting BS, which is why I’ve lied to myself…given excuses for others’ behaviours, words. I don’t think I would have caught this woman’s lying – she believed what she was saying.
The hurt in a lie is when the liar – person telling it – believes it to be true. Needs it to be true in order to face themselves.
Problem is – we can never out run our lies.