Indulges – Reflections: How hard is it to say “I’m sorry”

Apparently impossible. Must be due to how often it never happens. I’ve been listening and watching people all my life, I’m the quiet one in the corner. What I’ve seen is people giving stories, ignoring, shrugging, handing out excuses, and even blame.

When a ‘sorry’ is given there doesn’t seem to be anything simple about it. There’s always a long drawn out reasoning and discussion – and sometimes that’s from the one receiving the apology.

And what about the kids. When was the last time a parent said sorry to them – admit to being wrong. What’s so wrong in giving what we expect from them?

Then there’s the subtle times when a sorry should be given. Times when you know something said or done was not received in the intended manner. The sorry for assuming. The sorry said in understanding how a person is feeling, at that moment.

The sorry for not knowing, realizing, an apology is warranted.

The hardest sorry is when you know you’re wrong – have been caught. The next in line – sorry for disagreeing but will agree to disagree. Not everyone will share an opinion. This doesn’t mean they’re idiots.

Expecting perfection?

Not really. Hoping for honestly, but that’s the hardest part of any apology. You see, it means we have to be honest with ourselves, about ourselves.